To Bring or Not to Bring...
We labored over the decision whether or not to bring our biological daughters (Bethany and Kailey) to Ethiopia to pick up Neti and Meke. I leaned heavily toward bringing them. Rhonda was slightly in favor of not. I won. (It wasn’t a highly contentious argument.)
If you were to ask her now she’d tell you we made the right decision. It cost us approximately $5000 more to bring them along but it was well worth it! They not only made the trip easier for us but had firsthand experience of the adoption process – something they’ll never forget.
I know that our daughters are older (10 and 12) than many others who are faced with the same decision. Here are some questions I’d consider:
- Can your kids take care of themselves? Are they responsible?
- Can they emotionally deal with parental attention temporarily shifted to a new family member?
- Are they natural nurturers?
- Do they obey well?
- Are they OK with sticking close to Mom and Dad?
The answers for us have been unequivocally “Yes!” Now our girls – all of them – have a lifelong memory they’ll cherish much longer than we’ll mourn the loss of $5000.